(In the article, we strongly opinion against any form of domestic violence by the spouse, we are working on the aspect of bringing together two people for whom restoring the marriage might work wonderfully)
What is a marriage?
Marriage is often considered one of the most trusted institutions, and it is to be written as the eternal bond between two souls. In most cultures, it is regarded as the beginning, the beginning of the family, and life-long commitment. It is just not a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union for all of us. Hence there is a high amount of faith in marriage restoration.
This bond gives the strength of togetherness and bravery to face everything in life. It is designed for unconditional love forever.
However, unfortunately, a few marriages face turbulence and are on the verge of falling apart.
Let us look at a few reasons for marriages to fall apart :
- Unfaithful spouse
- Extramarital affairs
- Unsatisfactory sex life
- Financial problems
- Failing to share the responsibility of children
- Not discussing the conflict of interest
- Lack of individual identity
- Unmet expectations
- Inability to resolve conflicts
- Domestic violence
- Lack of intimacy
Please note that we could also find other essential reasons that depend on the couples. ( In the article, we strongly opinion against any form of domestic violence by the spouse, we are working on the aspect of bringing together two people for whom restoring the marriage might work wonderfully)
As mentioned before, marriage is a bond that connects the families and enhances culture. Different religions have different aspects of marriage and restoration of marriage.
Many aspects will pitch in when a couple decides to part ways to save the bond. It could be friends, relatives, families, children, at times colleagues.
However, this article throws light on the way scriptures take restoring the marriage:
Scriptures of any religion want the followers to consider marriage as sacred and a form of continuation of humankind and legacy. Let us look at the Bible verses for marriage restoration :
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What is the biblical basis for marriage restoration?
- Surrender to God, admit you are powerless before God.
- Pray for your spouse and your marriage.
- Peter 5:10 “And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you”
- “For there is hope for a tree if it is cut down, that it will sprout again and that its shoots will not cease.”
- “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
- He is faithful if we confess our sins, forgives us our sins, and cleanses us from all unrighteousness.
- “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”
- “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”
- “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer”
- “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
- Surrender to God, admit you are powerless before God.
So, what is the first step? One must admit that the marital problems cannot be handled by the couples independently. Families recognize the competitiveness to resolve the things between husband and wife. Scriptures always say that everything is under the control of the supernatural almighty, and one has to realize that God controls everything.
Directs our lives daily (Romans 8:14)
When humans go powerless, the entire responsibility lays on almighty to restore the marriage. A few couples need power that is beyond any human power.
- Pray for your spouse and your marriage.
Prayers have the power to heal any wounds. Scriptures say one must sincerely pray for the spouse and the marriage to work on.
Jesus said, “According to your faith will it be done to you” (Matthew 9:29).
The verse speaks volumes about the power of prayers.
An earnest prayer gives beautiful results in any marriage, scripture says.
Couples shouldn’t get discouraged if they do not see any results immediately, as good things always take time. They must do their part and leave the rest to be almighty.
- Peter 5:10 “And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you”
The cracks in the marriage are always painful. A couple will go through a lot of hurdles and heartbreaks. This can damage mental health also. Scriptures say that after this hiccup in the marriage, God himself shows how to restore the marriage. Almighty will bring back the glory of love and trust back in the union. HE will strengthen the marriage and establish a new foundation for the life hereafter.
- “For there is hope for a tree if it is cut down, that it will sprout again and that its shoots will not cease.”
One of the significant aspects of restoring the marriage is hope. Hope to keep the love alive, trust and friendship alive. The love or the wedding about to die will sprout again if the hope and faith are strong. No one can cut the ties of marriage without the will of God.
God helps those who help themselves. Hence the couple must have hope and trust as a step to restore their wedding.
- “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
Kindness and compassion move mountains. Kindness is a quality that can heal many wounds of humans. How about being kind to your spouse? Being compassionate to each other will stop the poisoning of minds and induce love in the couple’s hearts.
Forgiveness is another significant aspect of marriage. Forgiving ourselves forgiving our partner can reduce the bitterness and lighten our hearts.
Hence kindness, forgiveness, and gentleness towards the spouse can rekindle the love in the marriage.
- He is faithful if we confess our sins, forgives us our sins, and cleanses us from all unrighteousness.
In a marriage, there are cases where both man and wife might have gone wrong, might have sinned, might have been unfaithful towards their partner. Confessing and seeking forgiveness for our mistakes will cleanse the dirt of the relationship.
Couples must dare to seek forgiveness from each other and forgive each other, and this will enlighten them to take up the right path in their lives. As the saying goes, ‘to err is human, to forgive is divine.
- “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous”
One of the reasons for the discord in the marriage is infidelity. It is never accepted in scriptures of any religion, and it is commanded to be stopped immediately and be faithful to the spouse in such cases.
If not, God will punish those who are sexually immoral and adulterous. The foundation of any marriage is trust and being moral and loyal to the partner. Anything that deviates from this loyalty is subjected to judgment by God.
- “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”
The above verses can be associated with any gender. The Bible verse on marriage restoration is about the commandment to be faithful to one’s partner and not be violent or impulsive to leave the relationship that God bestows. The verses say that God never accepts that one goes against his will when abandoning the partner.
- “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer”
Restoration of marriage is not easy, and the couple must have abundant patience and endurance to go through marriage restoration. One must have patience in the turbulence and constant prayers.
As mentioned above, prayers heal and restore relationships.
- “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Wise people once said that ‘what has to happen will happen at any cost .’Marriage is an institution that is instrumented by the will of God, and one cannot go against the will or wishes of God. People associated with the couple should never stop trying to unite the couple because no one beholds the power to separate anyone, particularly those for whom God has joined together.
The above mentioned are a few verses of the Bible that are to be remembered during marriage restoration. Any scripture, any religion will always believe in togetherness, kindness, and compassion. Followers are expected to follow patience and the will of God.
What are the benefits of marriage restoration?
Couple who are going through marriage restoration would have faced both negative and positive aspects of marriage. Here are a few benefits of marriage restoration.
- Fall in love again : By now, you would have seen the positive and negative aspects of marriage. Once it is restored you can explore each other’s strengths and fulfill marriage.
- Openness : You would have entered the zone of honesty after all the ups and downs. Hence the couple can comfortably discuss the issues of opinions.
- Trust : Trust is the foundation of every relationship. A marriage that is successfully restores has high chances of enjoying all the commitment from one another. The effort should be towards building c a character/Personality that embodies trust.
What are the risks of marriage restoration?
Not all the marriages can be saved. There are a few marriages that suffer and restoration might make it worse. Given below are a few danger signs where marriage is beyond repair or restoration.
- Lack of intimacy and love
- Communication issues
- Lack of sympathy/trust/respect
- Emotionally and physically growing apart
What are the warning signs of marriage restoration?
Relationship is beautiful when there is respect and love attached to it. There are researches that suggests that chronically negative or abusive relationship can shorten the life span of the person.
An abusive relationship needs to end. It is important to seek support if you are dealing with abuse in your marriage.
Please note that abuse is never acceptable and no one deserves it or should live with it. Also note that abuse need not be always physical, it can come in other forms including emotional abuse or verbal abuse.
How can marriages be prevented from being restored?
Marriage , in all religions is a sacred institution. Everyone associated with the couple would want them to have faith and restore the marriage. But there are certain cases where a marriage cannot be restored. It could appear risky or abusive if let to continue.
In those crucial cases of abuse or being victimized from either of the spouse , calls for a decision making as one does not deserve to be in an abusive marriage. In such cases, marriages can be prevented from being restored.
What are the consequences of marriage restoration?
A successfully restored marriage enjoys all the conviction from one another. The impact of this restoration could be in your health : Physical, emotional and mental.
There could be a lot of positive consequences of marriage restoration. The effect on the families is profound.
